Skip to main content

My Thoughts - Being Happy Where You Are When You Want More

I admit it! I am a huge High School Musical fan. I can totally relate to Sharpay with her "I want more!" attitude.


In my head, I constantly think things like:
"It would be really nice to have couch surfing buddy."
"I want to feel valued and challenged at work"
"A larger paycheck would be great."
"I really want to go on a trip."

On a weekly basis, I hear things like:
"Why are you still single?"
"Don't you want a newer car?"
"Why are you in THAT job? You are capable of so much more."
"Why don't you travel?"

As of the last few years, I have struggled with being happy with what I have. Maybe one day, "it" will be enough; who knows? However, when well intentioned people share their thoughts with where I am at in life, coupled with my own thoughts of wanting more, it is just a recipe for discontentment. I am a problem solver, so I spiral into a frantic "I gotta fix this" mindset. What is really interesting is a lot of this is out of my control, which causes me such anxiety. If you look at what I want in life, it all centers around finding (or bumping into) another person that I want and wants me or finding a new and improved job.

Dating and job hunting is exhausting and full of rejection. It is important for people to feel wanted, valued, and accepted. Therefore, when you put yourself out there for others to make that decision about you, it can have a lasting impact on your mental health. Some rejection can even cause feelings of grief. In my experience, grief is one of the most difficult feelings to handle, process, and overcome. I have also been looking into how our emotional situations affect the physical body. Rejection can cause physical responses like lowering your IQ and our ability to reason. I feel that the amount of rejection in the arena of career and relationships over the last few years has caused me to be so much more sensitive to lower level rejection like cancelled plans, unreturned texts/calls, etc. Usually, its the quality (or scale) of something that matters, but I believe in some instances, quantity can have a real impact on a person.

(I found this article on rejection interesting)

So, what is a girl to do when she wants it all and does not have it? I honestly have no clue. I do not want to stop trying, but I do wonder if I will ever reach my limit of rejection and lose my shit for real. So here I sit debating on if I should keep putting myself out there or if I should try just being happy where I am in life and hope I do not miss out on an amazing opportunity. I found a couple of articles with some suggestions (below) that I may try. I am in search of contentment with a sprinkling of happy. I believe it is possible for me to get there.

How To Be Happier With What You Have
How To Be Happy With What You Have And Stop Wanting More
Be Happy Now





Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Born To Stand Alone

I hope y'all are ready for some more Brené Brown fangirling! In my dark moments in life, somehow she always shows up to show me the light. Whether it is in a social media post, a video I run across, or a book I pick up to read at the right moment. Brené, thank you for being you and having the courage to show up and be seen.  I recently finished reading Brené Brown's book Dare to Lead . In that book she discusses values. She says that we all have two core values and the rest of the values we believe in are supportive of our two core values. I believe my two core values are: courage and legacy. When I would talk about values in my classes, I would mention integrity and authenticity as being some of my core values. I now believe those have a supporting role in my core values of legacy and courage. It takes a lot of courage to show up and be your authentic self and to sometimes stand alone in integrity. I want to be represented accurately which is why I get so upset when people...
Post a Comment
Read more

Focusing On The Up Side

I recently moved to Texas from Florida with two of my daughters. It seems that my nine year old daughter is doing just fine...dare I say, even thriving. While, my seventeen year old and myself are really blah about the whole thing. If you read my last post , you know that I am completely aware of my internal struggle with this move. If you have read my post, Words Unsaid , you will know that my brain is a super-filing-system set on figuring out problems. The fact that we are not doing as well as my nine year old poses a problem to me. I know...I know...we should not compare ourselves to others, but by golly I want to feel as great as that little sweet girl of mine. We recently had an amazing girls night out. My brother and his wife gifted us theater tickets to see " Anastasia ." In my mind I believed this would be the first solution to our little issue of being meh . I will just lead with, we had a great time and I will talk about that more in just a sec. Right now, I wa...
Post a Comment
Read more

Just Send The F***ing Email, Already...Geeze!

I have been reminded, almost  daily,   for the last three weeks , how efficient I am and that nothing is going to get done when I depart. As if what I do is some how  magical  and ONLY I have the ability to do so. YES! I do act like it sometimes because its funny to me to play into the drama. But, in all seriousness, I have three simple time management "rules" I live by. Let me explain why time management is important. There is one simple reason, just one, YOU IMPACT OTHERS! You impact people at work, home, the world, etc. The idea for this post came about because I was impacted by what I consider inefficiency. The person that was assigned the task of planning and executing my going away at work put it off...or forgot about it...or whatever...numerous times. It got to the point where I ended up essentially planning my going away and sent them a detailed email of what was "planned" and whom to send the email to...an entire list of people...just have to put their...
Post a Comment
Read more