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LinkedIn is full of posts telling job-seekers to "buck up" and "will yourself into your next career." There are plenty of posts telling you the hard-skills you need to land your next position. But, how does a job-seeker cope with the abundance of passive rejection in order to help them persist? Contrary to popular belief, telling someone to "suck it up and keep trying" is not enough. First, let's look at combining the dictionary definition of passive and rejection: the dismissing or refusing of proposal, idea, etc. through acceptance or allowing what happens or what others do without an active response or resistance. Read that definition a couple of times. Essentially passive rejection is rejection without an active rejection response. Therefore, passive rejection is confusing and often more harmful than assertive rejection. Examples of passive rejection int he job-seeking arena are: Applying for a job and not receiving a response either way Meet...

I keep seeing all these quick posts showcasing interesting things you can buy. I thought I would try my hand at it. Let's play "What's in Christina's Bag?" The Bag First let's talk about my bag. I know its not in my bag, but bag is in the title of the post FFS. I carry a cute canvas tote. I know it's super dangerous because you can fit so much s*** in it. It is getting quite heavy. I actually stopped carrying a purse for the same reason. Then I carried a wristlet, but I couldn't fit a book in there. I wanted to get a bag that had some cute saying or something on it. All those kinds of bag were big AF. That's why I switched to this big a** tote. Find this cute bag here . Virtual Book Club Book This month we are reading F ail Until You Don't-Fight, Grind, Repeat by Bobby Bones. It stays in my bag unless I am reading it or using it as a prop in the VBC video. You might be thinking "that book is heavy, why carry it around everywhe...

I did not realize how much I enjoy being in a metropolitan area until I went to Atlanta for a work trip. I know you are probably confused right now because the post title says "San Antonio," but bear with me. I grew up in what is considered a metropolitan area. I left when I was 17 years old and rarely went back and when I did visit, it was to see family. I thought I wanted to live some quiet life out in the middle of nowhere. I mostly did live in the middle of nowhere after I left or those places seemed in the middle of nowhere to me-then Atlanta happened. I felt this excitement and a feeling of "home." I looked for work there briefly, but sadly gave up, wondering if the city life was even for me. Then I decided to move to the "San Antonio area"-basically anywhere near San Antonio because that is where I had a temporary free place to crash while I looked for employment in "MilCity, USA"-where I thought for sure I would find my near perfect c...

I have been full time job-seeking for about five weeks now. Recently I saw a post on LinkedIn by a frustrated fellow job-seeker. Reading this post and seeing the responses reminded me of the types of posts I see about dating. It made me realize there are a lot of similarities between job-seeking and dating. Job-seeking can be an emotionally charged event just like dating can be. I have categorized the similarities of dating and job-seeking into three areas: personal preferences, cold online world, and rejection. Sometimes a job-seeker needs a little empathy and empowerment so they can keep trying, just like someone who is dating. Personal Preferences Let's start with personal preferences. My first observation with job-seeking is how much advice is available and thrust upon job-seekers through social media, articles, and companies designed to assist job-seekers. I rarely see any scientific background cited for the advice given. It seems to come from personal preference. Personal...

At this moment in my life, I believe I am starting a whole new book, not just writing a new chapter. For the first time in my life, I am open to being vulnerable and allowing others to see that I need support. I knew this journey had a purpose. I can almost feel the energy working inside me, beautifying my spirit as I open my mind and heart-allowing others in-understanding everyone has a different purpose in my life-setting boundaries accordingly. It is my turn to grow! For as long as I can remember I have been a caretaker. My earliest memory of supporting others was when I was two years old. My dad was upset about something and I just remember comforting him as much as a two year old can. It is not much of a memory, I was two. But, I know it happened because I mentioned it to my mom and she shared with me the rest of the story. When I decided to work on myself, I had to do a lot of reflection. One of the things I reflected on were my relationships over the years. I have had a...