Dating Schmating

Let's talk about dating.

I pretty much do not do it anymore!

But, I do have plenty of conversations about it and why I choose not to.

Do I want to be single?

No and that is normal, people!!!

I have realized that dating is basically a bunch of broken people that do not want to be alone, but also do not want any kind of real connection because that means they have to be vulnerable and who wants that?

Hey! Quote me on that...hell make a meme and share it on social media. Thanks!

I can deal with the bullshit hoping to find the diamond in the rough if I did not have to deal with the judgmental assholes that are well meaning, but are really just terrible "fixers." I would prefer for people to place blame where it should be: on the douche that played me. Can I get a little empathy up in here?.....up in here

On the rare occasion someone is interested in me, I give them a chance. I give them a real chance. When he turns out to be "like all the others." I am met with :

"You should have known better"
How was I supposed to know better? The person acted interested in me. They told me how interested in me they were. I had no clue until they ghosted me.

"You should have been more cautious."
If I am more cautious, I hear "stop bringing old baggage into something new. Not all guys are the same. You need to give this one a chance." Geeze, which one is it, people!?

"You should have [insert game strategy here]."
So, tell me which game works, for real? Like, do any of them work? Because I have used them all, reluctantly, but I did it. Those that do not believe in games will tell you that its not the game that works, it is just that they did not need the game they were playing because the dude was actually interested and a good one.

I will admit that I am part of the problem-if being single is a problem. I will take ownership of being unique. I do not play games anymore. I am available when I am available and not when I am not. I have sex when I am ready to, whether it is day one or day ninety, in between, or beyond. I am honest. I will not continue or start dating someone that I know will not be compatible with me. Oh, and get this, I will tell them. Shut the front door! You do not ghost people?! Nope, I sure do not.

I have found that I am a rare gem in this crazy world. I do not belong much of anywhere, but with the few people that love me for me. So, I guess single it is until I find a dude as rare as I am.

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