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The best way to keep one's word is not to give it. - Napoleon Bonaparte Oh if it were only that simple…   The topic of broken promises, commitments, and words has been on my mind lately. I feel I may have an extreme aversion to these things. Although I may overreact, the breaking of promises, commitments, and words has an impact on relationships and I would like to discuss this topic. I actually did some research before writing this post. What is a promise? commitment? giving your word? Since all three terms use the word promise, from here on out I will use the term “promise” to make things simple. I will also use the term relationship to mean any type of social connection you may have. I believe my aversion to broken promises stems from my child hood. According to my research there are 7 things that happen when a parent breaks a promise to their child (1): As I read the article I got this list from, it makes sense as to why I am extremely upset whe...

Sometimes I feel so helpless as a parent. Gone are the days that I can kiss or hug tears away. Life eventually becomes more complicated than a skinned knee or someone stealing away a toy. For all of my daughters, that time seems to come in the fourth grade. This is the school year of frustrations and tears that are accompanied by "I don't know." I feel like fourth grade has been the turning point in my parenting; the point I begin to question if I am getting it right.  My youngest daughter has begun fourth grade. I had hoped that she would begin "the end" later than her sisters. She is much different than them. Half her DNA is different. She was raised different and essentially had a different life than they had. That is just the nature of having a different father and a large age gap. Two days into fourth grade, it began. This is the year of "unknown tears," basically unintentionally seeming to cry for no reason. Two weeks in to the school year, sh...

This week has been full of discussions and reading about the topic of sharing. Where is the line between being your authentic self and oversharing? I am pretty sure I am not the expert on that. However, I would like to share some of my thoughts I have on the subject.   This journey began when I was contacted about a social media account of mine and ended with me overthinking on the topic of sharing. I know a lot of people and many of them have been quite forthcoming with me on the topic, whether I asked or not. I am also reading a book by Brene Brown called I Thought It Was Just Me where the topics of sharing and shame are discussed. In between all those conversations and moments of reading my current book selection, magically YouTube videos and random articles crossed my path with differing ideas on the topic. I am definitely considered an oversharer. I often cross the line between being my authentic self and expressing my every thought, experience, and feeling. It h...

Friendship has been a topic of discussion for me for the last week or so. I have received a lot of valuable insight from numerous people. I do not agree or disagree with anything I have heard. I have kind of just taken it in and processed it. One person who has requested to be known as Ravishing Ravenclaw, mentioned the term "convenient friend." I had never heard of that before. At first it caused some anger and hurt to think about how many people treat me like a convenient friend. However, after some contemplation and reading some blogs/articles on the subject, I think we all treat some people like convenience friends.  Urban Dictionary defines Convenience Friend as    a person who is only around when it is easy and  convenient  for them. They are the people who, if not placed around us, (ex.  dorm  rooms), all the time, they wouldn't really be friends. They are usually used to doing things for you, if you need a ride to and from school, etc...