I'm Mfing Awesome, Yo!

I admit it! I am a huge High School Musical fan. I can totally relate to Sharpay with her "I want more!" attitude.

According to attachment theory, you learn your attachment style when you are little; like infant/toddler years. It is theorized that you pick partners that mimic what you are used to. I have been analyzing my relationship issues trying to see if anyone is similar to my parents. 

I am truly a lifelong learner and very introspective. 

Hi, my name is Christina, and I often feel lonely.  Are you still there?  Hello?  Okay, if you are, then maybe you are lonely too and want to hear what I have to say. 

In this stage in my life, I do not see some of my friends very often. But when I do, the first question most people ask me is "how's dating?" My current response is "I'm not" and I hope the conversation moves on from there. Typically it doesn't. It turns into something like: "Good for you. You don't need a man anyhow."  (but I'm human and would still like one, one day) "Good. You weren't having any luck any way." (wow! ummm thanks for pointing that out) "Why? What happened with so-and-so?"  (probably lasted 6 weeks & ended 6+ weeks ago, do we really have to talk about it) "Yeah, you should look for a friend with benefits."  (why do we think filling our lives with meaningless sex fills the love void?) "Don't give up! You will find someone."  (typically from a person that told me to stop dating, but had never been single, ever) First, I want to share my feelin...

I have been seriously trying to navigate the dating world for about a year and a half now. Basically that is when I stopped diddling around. No more casual meh dating. I have realized some things recently. The biggest thing I have realized is: we are ALL damaged, yet everyone seems to want someone that is NOT. It's not exactly a bad thing to be damaged. Our experiences have molded who we are, good and bad. Think about it. There is not one person dating in their 30s or 40s (as I soon will be), that has not had at least one bad relationship experience. Some of these people are still carrying that baggage around and probably should not be dating. But, for the rest of us we just have scars and a list of shit we will not put up with anymore. This means that as you are dating, the other person will more than likely cause an emotional responses in you due to your previous experiences. This is NOT living in the past. This is called an emotional response to damage that you may or may no...

I. am. LONELY. There! I have said it. What would be your response if I said it to you directly? You would be amazed at how others may feel about this statement. I have found that it is a very misunderstood ideal. I decided to try to understand it better myself through reflection and share my feelings on the subject...my feelings on my feeling of loneliness.  walkingtimes.com